Friday, January 07, 2005

New Year Resolutions

Unlike other people I know, and no I won't mention names, I like to focus on resolutions that bring good things to my life, instead of nit picking some negative to remove.

Resolution 1 - Attend Live Events (1x month minimum)

Some of you may find this resolution vaguely familiar. It's true, it is the same resolution I've made for the past 6 years. However, this year there are modifications! A live event can include, theater (not movies), museums, outdoor fairs, etc.

Resolution 2 - Dine with Friends at Home (2x month minimum)

This resolution is one that I roped Frank into participating as well, so the plan is to have friends over to one of our homes at least twice a month. We don't want another year to go by and find that we haven't seen our friends since last year's holiday party.

Guest Number 1 - Warren Jackson, College Friend, local Lawyer

Menu:

  • Warm spinach w/onion, garlic and mushroom
  • Balsomic potatoe wedges
  • Almond apricot chicken
  • Chocolate truffles
  • Red wine


The meal was simple. The company excellent and spontaneous and I look forward to keeping at least two resolutions this year. The others, not mentioned because I don't want to be held accountable, will probably meet a quick and simple death -- who needs to hit 205 pds in 2005!


Friday, December 31, 2004

What happened?

Halloween - The boys did indeed go as boys this year. A contingency of 12 politically incorrect Asian men wandered the streets with Fabulous Fus!!

Thanksgiving - Frank and I did the NEW YORK City thing - shows, restaurants, and dinner at Malle's.

Christmas - We headed off to Walla Walla, Wa.

Day 1 - Oakland Airport > Portland > College Place (in Walla Walla County) > Games
Day 2 - Christmas Tree Shopping > Ice Burg Run > Christmas Eve > Games
Day 3 - Stockings > Church > Lunch > Gifts > Dinner > Games
Day 4 - Sheet Rock > Walla Walla Tours > Ice Burg > Leminy Snicket > Dinner > Games
Day 5 - Shopping > Wine Tasting > Dinner > Games
Day 6 - Visits > Aviator > Dinner > Games
Day 7 - Walla Walla visits > Grapefields > Dinner > Games
Day 8 - Portland > Westin - Heavenly Nap > Red Star > local bars
Day 9 - Shopping > Mother's Bistro and Bar > New Year's Dancing
Day 10 - Mother's Bistro and Bar > Kimberly visit > Pizza > Finding Neverland >
Day 11 - Home to San Francisco

Saturday, October 23, 2004

Halloween – It’s a Boy Year?


Thank God the Spawn of these Girls All Passed Away!
– Halloween 2003

His royal highness, Jeff Qin, has returned from abroad and Halloween plans may now commence. Qin and his personal consort will be wearing Emperor caps with the extra ball on top … which means the rest of the Chinese contingency are … eunuchs!? Robes and hats with a “Manly” ponytail will match.

From the road with Mr. Qin

Sorry I haven't seen you guys since Serena and I flew back from Beijing. Crazy time here … ANYWAY, I do have the costumes, and they are fabulous, or as fabulous as they can be for $30 a head. There are twelve altogether. The garment is a silk robe, and everyone got their first color choice. For headgear, there are 9 caps with queue attached. There are also two Empress Kits, which include a floral-fan thing overhead, a dangling-to-the-side-of-the-head thing and a coordinated fan.

All the other caps are color-coordinated with robes. For John, Frank, Douglas, Jim and his friend, size XXL. Randy and Paul got M's. Tassos, his straight friend for Greece and I are in XL. Tassos and I have Emperor Caps, but they are not very different, just an extra ball on the top. I couldn't get them all that way, as they wouldn't stack for transport home. Sorry, that means that the rest of you guys are eunuchs!

We could give the straight guy the funny prince hat, to make him easy to find; his hat would work with the gold robe. All together, the collection is really very colorful and we will look quite dramatic. I propose Peking Opera style make-up, and have some photos to help. Easy version is start with a white base, add heavy black eyes (slanted, of course) and black lips. Fu Manchu recommended.

For more elaborate options, visit the Peking Opera site at http://china.tyfo.com/int/ent/opera/peking/peking-index.htm

Big Bow,

Qin

Saturday, September 25, 2004

Viewing The Princess Bride as a Buddy Film

According to Vito Russo, in his book The Celluloid Closet, society has been fairly obsessed with maintaining the male role onscreen. Films about war or men together were constantly under scrutiny to avoid risking the male standard. To avoid the confusion that the male might prefer each other’s company, there was often a task, a woman or something in which the men or the male lead could do to prove his masculinity (i.e. heterosexuality).

On the surface, The Princess Bride (1987) directed by Rob Reiner might not seem a good example of the “buddy” film. However, upon closer inspection, the film has all of the necessary elements of a great buddy film and uses comedy to great effect, with a lead that is less than typically masculine. There are multiple sets of “buddies” in the film. There is the Grandfather/Grandson set, the Prince Humperdinck/Count Tyrone Rugen set and the three main characters of Westley, Inigo Montoya and Fezzik.

One aspect of the buddy film is the absence of a female character and the first set played by Peter Falk and Fred Savage illustrate this well. Falk interrupts Savage’s game playing to read him a “romance” novel, editing out the heterosexual love scenes and expressing concern when the grandson might be too involved. The book selection alone adds a level of suspect in this relationship, though it seems in line with the mentor/student role rather than a sexual role. The mother, who has a single line at the beginning of the film, is never seen again—she is merely the character that opens the door and brings the buddies together, then leaves.

Another aspect of a buddy film is that there are a group of men going off to war or attempting to conquer something. The lead character, Westley, played by Cary Elves is a simple farm hand and heads off to “prove” himself worthy of Buttercup, played by Robin Wright Penn. When it is assumed that he has been killed by pirates, she is forcibly engaged to the hyper-masculine Prince Humperdinck. The Prince and Count Tyrone Rugen use Buttercup as a pawn in their efforts to start a war. The fact that he would have his fiancĂ© killed illustrates another Russo idea that male bonding is associated with violence. The Prince has his bride abducted in order for him to hunt down the enemy’s who abducted her which will allow him to “prove” his manhood.

Russo comments that heterosexual romance was a standard plot ingredient but there was a sense of fear when the women were too expendable. The buddy set of the Prince and the Count plays on this fear well. They are the villains and do despicable things to the other characters to prove their power. However, on the side of love, their actions provide the plot element that brings the three other buddies together.

Westley has not been killed by pirates and return to begin his quest to save the abducted Buttercup. Along the way, he conquers the Spaniard (Inigo Montayo) with in a sword fight, Fezzik (Andre the Giant) with brains, and a battle of wits with Vizzini, who loses and dies. Each of the scenes have close physical contact between the men but because the actions are associated with a fight, it is deemed acceptable and, excepting Vizzini who died, the conquered men become his close friends who are willing to put their lives on the line.

The Princess Bride is a great example of a buddy film pulsing under the overt plot of a romance film. This film has three sets of buddies who display different aspects of the “Buddy Films” described by Vito Russo. I feel that the comedic dialogue did indeed allow for more bonding to take place in that it seemed to move the overt plot forward. However, I find it ironic that a movie built around the lines “As You Wish” (i.e. I Love You) is more of a buddy film than it is the expected romance film.

Monday, September 20, 2004

Weimar: Germany's Example - Class 4

We are settling into a routine. The large black man in the back seems like he is sleeping but is genuinely friendly, if not overly interested in the topic of the class. The lesbians have fallen into a back-and-forth banter with the instructor, who, without his notes would be completely lost.

Luckily for us, we got to listen to the discussion on Dorothy being a lesbian coming of age story. The term “Witch” is a code word for LESBIAN!!!! So, when Glenda asks Dorothy whether she is a good witch or a bad witch … yep, a whole new meaning. She initially responds that she’s not a witch! However, by the end of the film she is informed that she has had the power the entire time … does this mean that she is now “sexually” aware? Does her Ruby Red shoes indicate anything? Once you start down the yellow-brick road there are all sorts of potential interpretations.

Anyway, this week we discussed the role that the German film industry, prior to the rise of the Nazi’s, had on the notion of homosexuality. Loosely speaking, there was a perception of three types of sexuality, male, female and the third. Because of this idea, many felt that the issue of homosexuality did not lie with the homosexuals, since they were born this way, but with the people who had issue.

With this foundation, the discussion went to the various interpretations of the third sex. The third sex was divided into the Male/Female In-betweens which included those who demonstrated characteristics generally associated with the opposite sex. The other aspect of the third sex was centered on the Instructor/Student ideal.

Our film, Maedchen In Uniform was a dry film, pieced together about a motherless girl who goes to a boarding school and falls in love with one of the instructors who shows kindness. Oxygen guy brought his little Toto to class again and in a fit of boredom chewed through his leash and then visited the classroom rubbing his stinky little body against all of us … apparently we are now marked!

Speaking of marked, next week we get to appropriate the monster genre! I can’t wait.

Next Week: Required Reading: Queer Monsters: Vampires, Zombies, and Creatures – Oh MY! Screening: The Old Dark House (Whale, 1932). Required Reading: Harry Benshoff’s “Defining the Holloywood Queer Monster.”

Sliding into 36 – The Pre-Birthday Events

Tapeo

Frank did a great job of getting the boys together … not that there is that many left! John was heading off to meet Ben in Paris and Jeff was off to China. To solve the big hole that would be left in their lives if they missed the opportunity to celebrate my birthday, we met at the Metro and had dinner at Tapeo! It was a nice collection of new friends and friends I haven’t had the opportunity to see in a long time. Even better was the fact that Tapeo was offering 2 for 1 Tapas and we got to eat like little piggies – thanks go out to Rusty for taking over the ordering responsibilities!

Surprisingly, I lost two pounds according to the scale!

Badlands

I was going to say I haven’t been dancing for ages … then realized that technically we had gone dancing at the foam party in Guerneville, so I’ll say that I haven’t been to Badlands forever! And, it hasn’t changed, though they are currently trying to lure people in with cheap beer … it worked.

Now, I’m not the world’s best dancer and will cop to the fact that I tower on the dance floor. I’m often reminded of a great children’s book where a camel wants to be a ballerina. She realizes that she will never be a great dancer but enjoys herself and does not dance to please other people. I am not that self-actualized … others were demonstrably more comfortable with themselves. It was like watching the “Live from Badlands – The Elaine from Seinfeld” dance! We arrived and there were not that many people … and yet the dance floor was dangerously full. Legs were flying. Hips were popping. And people were spinning.

Now add to the mix the towering giant (self-actualized) who would drink two beers at a time and who would finish the beer by holding it aloft over his head and dripping the last drop into his mouth! Then, with a giant flourish, he would swim those long limbs back into the air and swing them monkey like around and around. It really gives tall people a bad name.

However, the shorty’s were well represented by the bouncy-I’m-a-Tigger toy and the guy that was crushing something invisible in his palm with his invisible pestle. Once the magic was ready, he blew the magic into the room … yeah, right. Thank God James joined us or we would have looked like little stuck up snobs … judging everyone who wasn’t us! I can hardly wait to return for my 37 birthday!

The Surprise!

I love John and take back all of the snide little things he has revealed in the past. I want the title back of being the person who cannot keep a secret! I’ve been having a rough time at work lately and really wanted to look forward to something not work related. With this in mind, I instructed Frank to keep birthday weekend plans hush hush.

So, when I talked to John before he flew off to Paris, I thought I had the whole thing figured out. Rusty was picking us up, so that meant a ride to the airport. Frank doesn’t like to fly long distances for short weekends, so that meant the West coast. It could be Disneyland but we had been to LA last year for my birthday. John said it was somewhere “family” oriented. I’m thinking family + west coast = Palm Springs! Nope. I took it to mean “Family” (WINK WINK), not family with children. Oy vey.


The Vehicle

Anyway, I’m out front of the apartment and Frank is late. The kitchen phone rings and I have to leave my spot on the front porch to answer it. The caller hangs up. I start for the front door and it rings again. AGITATION!!!! It’s Frank and he’s calling me to come out front … it’s what I was trying to do. I am channeling my inner peach maker and when I walk out the door … there it is a convertible mustang!! Excellent. Now we’re on a road trip and my schema is completely blown. However, I have a fabulous new CD and a book on different hiking options in Big Sur!

A perfect surprise and John didn’t blow it this year! Good job Frank!

That's Big Sur to You!

We’re driving in our car … we’ve turned on the radio! I think everyone should either own a convertible or rent one because you should have the opportunity to be “one of them!” at least once. Plus as you drive along, you get to enjoy all the elements that are usually shielded by the frame of the car. Strawberries … yum. Salt air … refreshing. Lettuce … debateable.

We made our way down the coast to our lodgings at the Big Sur Lodge. (www.bigsurlodge.com). No TV. No radio. No phones. Just a fireplace, a book and good company. It is amazing how a little separation from civilization can calm my nerves. Of course, I had to process work stuff but that is pretty easy to do while stepping over logs, avoiding poison oak and viewing the waterfalls.

Our plans can be summarized by the following:

  • Hike
  • Eat
  • Read
  • Hike
  • Eat
  • Read
  • Sleep
  • Repeat


Along the coast!

Not a bad way to spend the weekend and over the course of three days we enjoyed three different hikes. I would talk about the person in the restaurant who broke a chair when he sat down … but I swore not to mention names.

The Hikes From the Big Sur Lodge

Pfeiffer Falls + Valley View
This 40 to 60 minute stroll along Pfeiffer-Redwood Creek features some of the finest redwood groves in the Big Sur region. Expect steps in the few steeper sections and a number of wooden footbridges across the creek. The 60 foot high waterfall at the end of the trail is a scenic highlight. A wooden platform at the base of the falls is a fine place to rest, meditate or have a picnic lunch … okay, we took pictures and then continued to the Valley View Hike.

You can climb through the oak woodland to the Valley View Overlook. The view from this vantage point includes much of the Big Sur Valley, Point Sur and Andrew Molera State park.
Buzzard’s Roost

A rugged two-hour hike along the Park’s western edge will take you along the river, through shady redwoods, then through a series of switchbacks among bay trees and tanoaks to the chaparral covered top of Pfeiffer Ridge. From the top there is a magnificent panoramic view of the Pacific Ocean and the Santa Lucia Mountain Range.

A Place to Meditate ...


Pfeiffer Falls

Point Sur Light Station – State Historic Park


The Gate to the Lighthouse!


One could argue that it isn’t a “hike” but the tour does go uphill and we were required to walk. This was definitely on of the highlights of the hiking experiences. We had to wait for the gate to be unlocked before we could drive across the private cattle land and park at the base of the hill. We had two docents, who reminded me of my father, and they were great storytellers. It was obvious to our little group of eight that these guys enjoyed the experience.

Point Sur is the only complete turn-of-the-century light station open to the public in California. From 1889 to 1974, families lived and worked in the buildings atop Pt. Sur. The unique stone lighthouse still guides ships with its light, though it is not totally automated. Some would call it cheesy … I call it good upbringing! I can’t fully explain but I am always comforted knowing that these experiences would be ones I could share with my parents and with Frank.


The Lighthouse

The Highlands Restaurant

I’ve just finished a lovely cheese omelet made with my new omelet pan. And while I take a certain level of pride in my proficiency in the kitchen, I can only dream of the meal we had at the Highland Restaurant. We enjoyed the chef’s five course tasting menu, which included wine pairings. Bats and moths entertained us as the sun set over the ocean.



What did we eat?

What did we eat?
  • Lobster Bisque
  • Halibut sashimi
  • Scallops in a Lobster reduction
  • Squab wrapped in Proscuitto
  • Veal
  • Squash Brule with raspberry sorbet

The meal, of course, called for a roaring fire back at the room. Of course, we had to break into the room since we both left our keys inside. Perfect day. Perfect night.